That’s one of my favorite Lou Holtz-isms: What’s Important Now?
Having given myself some decompression time, I am starting to feel much more sane and logical about wedding planning. There are a few realities that I managed to completely overlook for the first few weeks of wedding planning, and those realities made this entire situation seem more doable. For example, my parents have generously offered to help us with the expenses. HW’s family has offered to handle the flowers. I can sew, and my mom can SEW. I have planned multi-million dollar parties for work in the past, so this should feel like a cakewalk… albeit a far more personal cakewalk. Also? I don’t want a lavish, formal wedding.
I can totally do this.
The first step is figuring out what we want. There are a lot of resources out there that tell you what you ostensibly “need,” and we just don’t buy into that philosophy. As far as we’re concerned, what we need are the following things:
Me
HW
An officiant
Our families
When you look at that list, suddenly the act of getting married doesn’t seem that complicated. Everything else is just a bonus! But even though that brief list shows the necessary elements, there are definitely some other things that we’d like to include.
1. We’d like to have our friends and extended families included. We would especially love our many wonderful grandparents to be present.
2. We would like to have fun! We want our wedding day to feel like a big family reunion, bringing together all of the people that we love.
3. We’d like to have our wedding in a beautiful and comfortable setting, preferably in or around my hometown.
4. I would like to wear a wedding dress of some permutation, and the Horse Whisperer would like to wear a suit.
5. We would feel so honored to have our closest lifelong friends standing next to us.
6. We would love to have beautiful photos to look back on when we are 90 years old.
7. The Horse Whisperer would like a photo of the two of us with a cow.
8. We would love to have tasty-but-fun food to share with our guests.
Those are the priorities. (I am not kidding about item 7, by the way.) We’re pretty sure we’ve found a setting for this shindig, but are stuck waiting until my small town’s Super Gigantic University Football Schedule is announced, which should be within the next few weeks. After that, we’ll be ready to hit the ground running.
Wow – it sounds like you feel a LOT better about this wedding thing and I’m glad to hear it!
I like that – What’s Important Now? I’m going to have to start using that!
im a bit jealous about the cow thing…im fairly certain that ours wont have one.
Sounds like a great plan, and the cow picture is BRILLIANT! I have ferries in my wedding pics (taken up in Washington State) and they’re some of my favorites.
Sounds like you’ve got it together! Yay, girl, go get’em!
Even though I don’t actually know you, I’m very happy for you both
This is a great list! And all very doable, though I can’t comment on the cow.
That’s great! I think the idea of really figuring out what you want out of your wedding is a great way to look at it.
Having helped a few friends with their weddings in the past, I’d say the hardest part is the location. After that everything else just falls into place.
A picture next to a cow. I love it.
Cows are adorable. And I think I have a teensy crush on HW for requesting that of your wedding pix.
Remember, it’s just one day. At the end of it all, you get the guy (and he’s the best part).
xoxo
~S
I’m not at all surprised about the whole cow picture. In fact, I find him quite brilliant! But then again, I LOVE cows. Maybe you should have all your guests take pictures with a cow! Okay, now I’m just projecting
Either way, I’m sure you’ll look adorable as usual, he’ll look wonderfully dapper in his suit, and you’ll have the time of your lives.
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