As of today, I’ve lived in Encinitas for two months. I feel like I’m finally figuring it out – I know where to get all of my various groceries, and I don’t need to use a maps app to get there; I mostly remember which restaurants, cafes, and businesses are closed on Mondays; our house is almost set up to my liking; I own more than one temperature-appropriate clothing ensemble.
For the most part, I like it here a lot. The people are nice, the weather is always beautiful, the pace of life is lovely. It still isn’t home, but only time solves that problem. When people ask where we lived in San Francisco, I keep responding in present tense: we live on the line between the Western Addition and Lower Pac Heights. It always takes me a moment to remember that we don’t live there anymore. Nine years will do that to you.
Wonderful things (in no particular order)
1. The beach is glorious. I don’t go as much as I should. I have a goal to get there every day, but I usually make it about two or three times per week.
2. Trader Joe’s is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before! You drive up, find a parking space in the lot without waiting or circling, walk calmly through the store, and head to the register, where there is never more than one person in front of you. This happens regardless of the day of the week, or the time of day. I don’t quite understand it, but I sure do like it.
3. Time off with my honey is a regular thing! We have had every weekend to do what we want. So this is what that’s like!
4. People are incredibly kind and mostly considerate. There’s been a little bit of inconsiderate growth over the past few weeks, as our area is taken over by vacationers, but this too shall pass.
5. It really is a great little town. We live so close to the coast that we can basically exist along the 101 Highway corridor, which is loaded with locally-owned businesses and quirky landmarks. People have started to remember us at the places we frequent, which is lovely.
1. I haven’t yet made any friends. I’ve met some people who seem fun and interesting and may potentially become friends, but that hasn’t yet developed. Since I’m currently doing consulting work from home, this means I spend the vast majority of my time by myself. I’m an over-thinker, so too much solitude can be problematic. Working on this.
2. We’ve had a lot of house challenges. For about two weeks, something went wrong every day. And I’m talking about big things: the heater was leaking gas, the main line sewer backed up into our bathtub, etc. For those two weeks, I spent a lot of time with random people tracking equipment through our house. It was really unsettling. And yes, I understand that home ownership has its challenges, but we do not own this home. We pay a significant amount of rent so that someone else has to deal with this, and it was frustrating that we were, in fact, the ones dealing with it. That said, things seem to be settling down, and when the house is good, it’s really good.
3. I’m wasting a lot of time. Consulting from home has its up-sides, but I haven’t settled into my routine yet. I have three separate projects that I’m working on, and ideally I should set a schedule of work hours… but I haven’t done that. I’m not falling behind on anything, but my time feels very disorganized. I have, however, done a lot of house projects. I’ve also watched the first two seasons of Bones, and therein lies the rub. I am not a TV watcher, and I have no interest in becoming one. I need to find ways of getting out of the house (that don’t involve spending money). I’ve been going to the gym about three times a week, and heading to the public library once a week, but I need more of these things.
That’s the status update from two months in. Among the many “routine goals” that I’m setting for myself, I am hoping and planning to write more. But let’s be honest, I’ve been trying to force that for a few years now, and it hasn’t happened. I feel self-conscious about posting status updates, rather than thought-out essays, but that’s where I am at the moment.
Look, here’s another pretty ocean picture!